Sex Talk

It’s okay to talk about sex. Seriously. In fact, there are all kinds of reasons to talk about sex during and after a divorce:
- Lack of sex may have contributed to the marriage reaching the point of divorce
- Interest in sex may have been lost
- You may be ready for the next sexual relationship
- The singles crowd may be intimidating
- Recently divorced men may engage in overly risky behaviors during or after a divorce
Colorado may be a “no fault” state, where divorce lawyers don’t really get into why a marriage is broken, and why the parties may be getting a divorce, yet the reality is our lawyers watch people come out of marriages and approach the issue of new relationships every day.
In this sense, while we don’t claim to be experts in how to make the transition into new relationships, we certainly know the importance of safely moving on to healthy, new relationships.
Don’t turn into a solo hermit because your marriage didn’t work. Get out of your pajamas and turn to the next chapter in your life. The key is to get out of the house and meet new people. Join clubs, a new gym or volunteer some of your time.
So, in this section, we’re going to talk about sex. Hard to imagine if you’re at the beginning stages of a divorce, but life does move on. Might as well move on in a healthy direction.
Meeting New People

Divorce is filled with failures, but men often take on much more of the blame for a failed marriage. According to the sterotype, men are thought to be less affected by the end of the relationship. In fact, just the opposite appears to be the truth.
As studies related to the health of divorced men prove, they’re actually at greater risk, in many ways, than married men. In order to beat these stacked odds, divorced men need specific coping mechanisms to weather the storm of a divorce.
If you pretend nothing is wrong, it could negatively affect future relationships and your long term health. The following are some dating resources for divorced or divorcing men who want to reenter the dating world.
New Relationships and Your Family

You may be ready for a new relationship, but your kids may not be. How do you handle dates? When is the right time to introduce a new significant other? How is that introduction best handled?
These decisions will play a big role in your children’s development. Your choices may impact how they, themselves, approach relationships later in life.
As Colorado divorce lawyers, we’ve seen parents make innocent mistakes during a divorce, thinking they’re doing the right thing for their kids, with tragic results.
Do the right thing. Research what the experts think. Read up on introducing new partners to kids. Go slow. The kids have seen more than their share of changes.
Sexual Health for Men

Nobody likes to talk about erectile dysfunction, testicular cancer and other health conditions related specifically to men but the truth is that men’s health can be so compromised by the divorce process, that we have to.
Ignoring the risks and warning signs will – suprise – result in problems in the future. Learn about your risks and how to avoid them.

