Surviving the Odds

The stereotype might be that men move on faster after a divorce, trading in the old wife for a fast car or a younger woman, but new studies find that following a divorce, men appear to get hit harder when it comes to physical and emotional well-being than women.
The National Institute of Mental Health reports that divorce or separation is the single best predictor of stress-related illness and that divorced men seem to suffer disproportionately from the consequences.
Here’s what divorced men – as opposed to married men – are up against:
- 4 times more likely to commit suicide
- 7 time more likely to die from pneumonia
- 6 times more like to suffer from depression
- 2 times more likely to die from cardiovascular disease
- 2 times more likely to die from hypertension
- 2 times more likely to die from stroke
Rely on Friends

Some argue that one of the reasons why divorced men are more at risk of experiencing depression is that their main sources of social support was their spouse.
After a divorce, its a pretty sure bet that that social support probably no longer exists.
Nineteen per cent of men who were no longer with their spouse found a decline in their social support, while only six per cent of men who remained in a relationship found a drop.
Don’t let yourself be cut off from your friends and family. Take steps to re-engage your support networks.
See the Risk & Avoid it

“Being divorced and a non-smoker
is slightly less dangerous
than smoking a pack or more a day
and staying married.”
Harold Morowitz, Professor of Biophysics
Yale University
According to the National Institute of Health, premature death rates for divorced men is double that of married men for conditions such as cardiovascular disease, hypertension, and stroke. The premature death rate from pneumonia is also seven times greater for divorced men than for married men.
Men can suffer more severe health problems due to divorce than their spouses too. According to some studies, men whose marriages ended in divorce had a 37% percent higher risk for death due to heart disease. When the men also had stressful jobs, the death rate soared even higher.
Overall, divorced men and woman are at greater risk of early death from cancer, cardiovascular disease, strokes, pneumonia, hypertension, and suicide.
According to researchers at the National Institute of Mental Health, “The single most powerful predictor of stress-related physical, as well as emotional, illness is marital disruption.”
So what can you do? Here’s a quick list of some easy strategies that can help set you on the right course.
- Get lots of sleep
- Eat well
- Ski (or board) Mary Jane
- Exercise – now!
- Say “no” sometimes
- Laugh (try this)
- Prioritize projects
- Go for a walk at Washington Park
- Talk
- Live within your budget
Father’s Rights
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Podcasts
Music
Movies
- Closer
- Kinsey
- The Squid and the Whale
- High Fidelity
- Eternal Sunshine
- Nick and Norah’s Infinite Playlist
- Ace of Hearts


